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Just Being A Mom, Mommy Thoughts

Just Some Random Mommy Thoughts

mommy-thoughts-baby-sitting-careDid you know that there’s actually a way to measure how a state truly takes care of moms? Yes, it’s true. You better believe it.

As a matter of fact, there is actually an interesting service that shares just how mom friendly each state in the US really is. You can use this particular service to see how your state ranks on several issues important to the health and well-being of moms and children.

Now it gets really interesting because it judges each state using parameters relevant to every mother’s needs. Take a look at this.

Each state is judged on several criteria to determine their overall score. Access to prenatal care, maternal mortality, risk of pregnancy complications, childcare availability, infant mortality, air quality, violent crime rate, access to health insurance, affordable children’s health insurance, and the state’s mandatory paid leave policies are all picked over and compared to give a breakdown of how the individual states add up.

Did you actually think something like this existed? I personally had no idea something like this existed.

It sounds like an ideal world, almost too perfect to be true. However, if you think about it, it should really be the case. Easy accessibility to prenatal care and other health and medical issues should always be made available. There’s no question about that.

In my personal opinion, there is accessibility to prenatal care and other health and medical issues. As long as there are hospitals around, there is always accessibility to prenatal care and other health and medical issues. Now does that make a state more mom friendly? Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t.

It’s ironic that my own state came in near the bottom of the heap. Access to prenatal care and health care coverage are ranked as our worst issues. I do wonder exactly who they are including in their results of access to prenatal care.

Did they count midwives in their numbers? Not that it would add much but it does matter specially if some moms have to drive over an hour in labor to get to the nearest midwife. Would that, in any way, affect the scores of just how mom friendly a state is?

It’s almost the same thing if the topic is childcare. When it comes to childcare, I think it’s pretty hard to measure just how a state is making it more accessible to moms.

Come to think about it, how can a state actually ensure that there is easy childcare accessibility? In my opinion, that’s pretty hard to gauge.

First and foremost, the kind of childcare has to be identified. If easy accessibility to childcare were measured only in terms of the number of daycare centers around, then that wouldn’t make too much sense to me.

I am one of those moms who just don’t believe in daycare centers. I just don’t feel safe leaving my kids in daycare centers. The fact that there are a lot of them around; can cause us to raise a lot of serious questions.

Are these daycare centers safe? When it comes to childcare, accessibility should be equated with safety. Yes, but that’s not all.

Unfortunately, the growing numbers of daycare centers might just make me wonder about the legalities of such establishments. How does the state regulate the proliferation of daycare centers? Are these daycare centers licensed at all?

As a mom who is constantly worrying about the safety of her kids, I would never choose daycare as a form of childcare. I am much better off with a babysitter and as long as I can access Sittercity online, then I am good to go.

As a childcare provider that’s easily accessed online, I don’t have a hard time finding babysitters. I can just sign into my account on Sittercity and look for a babysitter when the need arises. For me, that’s very convenient.

So if all moms from each state rely on Sittercity, it’s safe to say that they have easy accessibility to childcare. That, of course, would make every state mom friendly. By the way, if you are looking into using this babysitting service, you can get some serious discount on Sittercity on some great parenting sites.

The service that identifies just how mom friendly a state is, is not just interesting but intriguing as well. It just makes me wonder how the other states are doing.

In my case, I’m not really bothered that the state I live in is at the bottom of the list. After all, I am signed up with Sittercity.

Nonetheless, it would still be nice to know how each state is measured. From there, we will have a good idea as what the qualifications are for a mom-friendly state. That would really be nice to know.

In addition to that, it would be great to hear from other moms their thoughts about this particular service. Are there any qualifications that should be added?

No matter what is said about the service, one thing is clear. There is always a collective effort to make things a lot easier for moms. If all these states could make it easier, then moms, like us, wouldn’t be so stressed.

Moms deserve an easier life. If there’s a way to make it easier for them, why not show it to them? After all, they deserve every kind of help they can get. I don’t think anyone would disagree to that.

So it really wouldn’t be so out of this world to say that moms need recognition each and every single day they are alive. With all the hard work they put into each and every single day, they need more than enough thank yous.

Moms are just amazing human beings. They’re so amazing that a day doesn’t pass without any of the kids crying out for mom. Mom is the word. So if there’s one day that should really be celebrated, it’s Mother’s Day.

To all you fabulous moms, here’s a trivia for you. Did you know that The Mother’s Day Proclamation was issued in 1870 by Julia Ward Howe? She is one of the three founders of modern Mother’s Day. She’s definitely one mom we should all thank.

There will always be efforts to make moms happy. Well, we deserve it.




Co-Sleeping and Kids, Mommy Thoughts

No Judging Please: My Take On Co-Sleeping

co-sleeping-with-babyHere goes another article on co-sleeping. I just can’t help writing about it. Co-sleeping is really a topic that gets a lot of folks talking and talking. Everybody has his or her own thoughts on it.

Take this for example. Over at Babble, there was an interesting article on sleeping, specifically co-sleeping. The general idea is that co-sleeping leads to sleep problems in children.

Apparently, the said article fails to mention anything about children who did not co-sleep but are still having sleep problems. Furthermore, the said article also ignores the ones who did co-sleep and have had no problems at all. Luckily the comment section has several voices of reason in it.

How a person sleeps is such an individual thing. You can’t really make a collective call on such a sensitive topic. What works for other families may not exactly work for your family.

Furthermore, co-sleeping can be influenced by a thousand other issues and let’s face it; each family has different issues. So it’s really hard to make a make a conclusion about co-sleeping that’s appropriate for all.

No one has the right to impose an kind of sleeping method unless it’s needed. So seeing an article that totally slams co-sleeping is something I can’t really accept

When one makes a conclusion about co-sleeping, one has to consider diet, exercise, and TV viewing. These are just among the things that influence sleeping habits. You also have to take into account the personality of the child.

For me, if a child is having a hard time sleeping alone, there’s no immediate way to resolve it but by having him or her by your side. Unless you want to stay up late or you want the child to cry and cry, then go right ahead and leave the child alone. However, that’s just not the way I want to handle things around here.

My oldest was a great sleeper from the minute he was born. While on the other hand, my youngest hated sleep from the minute he was born. Interestingly, I’m a happy sleeper while their father stays up all night. Our sleeping patterns are blatantly different. However our sleeping patterns have worked so well because my husband takes over when our youngest is up. When he can’t seem to outdo the energy level of the little one, we all end up sleeping on one bed. I know for some, that is an extremely radical way of co-sleeping but it works for us.

However, I would like to justify that with this simple reason. Our youngest just can’t seem to sleep without the comfort of being sandwiched between me and my husband. That is just way things happen around here and for anyone who thinks we’re doing the wrong thing, well, that’s just too bad. We’re not going to change things just because of some loud clamor that gets really irritating at times.

I regularly talk to other moms who co-sleep. What I have seen over and over again is this; there is no real pattern.

Based on all the conversations I have had with a lot of moms, some kids sleep well while some do not. According to some babysitting and parenting experts, some infants who are just a couple of months old are ready to sleep all night. While some babies might need a few years more to get themselves to sleep. It’s the same with potty training. You can’t rush a child to learn it too soon. More often than not, it only leads to frustration.

While I know that co-sleeping does not work for everyone, making blanket statements about it in this way is a bit annoying. Those of us who have chosen that particular sleeping method probably know first hand the many insightful comments people can make when they disagree.

I do have to admit that I was taken off guard when some one commented that leaving an infant to cry for 45 minutes wasn’t all that bad. Maybe to an adult, though I’d be hard pressed to feel that if if my partner left me to cry that long alone I’d be so light about it, but for an infant or young child with no concept of time, 45 minutes might as well be a lifetime. Especially when they are not mature enough to understand what is happening or why.

Now don’t get me wrong. Our co-sleeping patterns don’t mean that I give in to my kids right away. Giving in to my kids by means of co-sleeping is a far-fetched thought. I honestly do not think that my husband and I are giving in. For me and my husband, we are simply dealing with the individual needs of our kids.

I am, not in any way, justifying our ways and means at home. Furthermore, I am not saying that what we are doing is the right thing. I am just saying that it works for us. Also, we are just like any other parents out there who are finding ways and means to make things work.

As a matter of fact, I would like to think that I am just like one of those moms who get easily irked by noisy kids. Yes, our world is totally chaotic and totally NOT perfect

I have been very open about that, having written earlier about getting a little more frustrated lately with my kids I wanted to share this list I found online. Positive Parenting: 10 Ways to Relieve the Stress of Childrearing

It’s a great list with ideas that can help parents stay rested. Admitting that you aren’t perfect and learning to laugh are just some of the many interesting ways to relieve the stress of childbearing.

If you can’t laugh over the silly, weird, odd things kids can and will do; then be prepared for an early stroke. There are a thousand instances when your only options will be to laugh or scream/ So choose wisely.

To say that parenting is easy is a total lie. So for anyone who thinks it’s easy, all I can say is this. Congratulations but keep all your parenting thoughts to yourself unless you have really gotten this whole parenting thing figured out.

It’s hard enough to get thru each day trying to figure out if you’re doing the right thing. It surely gets more irritating if you see people condescendingly telling you that you’re not doing the right thing. That for me is the height of being totally judgmental.


Baby Slings, Mommy Thoughts

Baby Slings Are Rocking

baby-slings-baby-momThe great thing about technology these days is that it makes everything a lot easier for moms like me. I love to read. I get hold of books and magazines when the kids give me enough space to be by myself.

When I was pregnant, I had spent so much time reading and reading about babies and being a mommy. I have to admit it. I love to read. I actually spend so much time reading that sometimes I skimp on sleep just to get hold of the latest parenting magazine or book.

I am not complaining though. As an attached mom, I make sure to read up on different parenting styles so that I am aware of a lot of things. As much as possible, I want to keep an open mind on a lot of things about motherhood.

With technology, it’s so easy for me to get hold of digital magazines right on my smart phone. I just love online magazines that focus on gentle, respectful parenting.

I am entertained at the same time; I am in the loop of things. As an attached mom, I find it very crucial to be in the know at all times.

One of the things that I have picked up from my daily habit of reading is how to make a baby sling. For some of you out there, you might think I’m crazy for even considering such a thing. I thought so too at the start. However when I read about it more and more, I realized it was best way to be stay attached to my baby, literally speaking that is.

I know the first thing that’s going to come to mind is safety. I understand that totally. I felt the same way as well. Why should I, or anyone for that matter, settle for a piece of cloth to secure my baby in when there are baby carriers that are a lot safer?

Believe me, I was really opting for a factory made baby carrier. I never even considered the sling. I just didn’t trust myself tying all those knots to keep my baby safe and secure. Then I learned more about it and gradually my feelings changed. For one thing, you can actually make a baby sling without having to tie any kind of knot.

Here’s a video that can help you keep an open mind about a baby sling. It not only teaches you how to tie a sling it actually teaches you how to make a sling out of old stretchy tee shirts. It’s quite radical but it’s, nonetheless, very interesting. If you think about it is pretty practical. Watch the video and keep an open mind about it. It really wouldn’t hurt.

So this is a really quick DIY baby carrier. What you need are a couple of stretchy t-shirts that you’re willing to cut and say good-bye to. A belly band from your pregnancy …

Yes, this baby sling is actually upcycled from old t-shirts. Before you panic, take a good look at how it’s made.

What you’re going to do is really simple. Take your t-shirt and you’re just gong to cut a straight line from underarm to underarm. Cut the neckline out of it completely and you should end up with a tube.

So with three stretchy tees, go on and cut them up now exactly the way it was described in the video. The good thing about this DIY is there’s no need to measure anything. Just lay the stretchy shirts flat down and cut each shirt from one underarm to another.

You will end with three pieces of tubes after you have cut each shirt. Now comes the fun part.

We’re going to put them on like a baby sash. I’ve got the hem closest to the top of my body that’s why it won’t get twisted and all.

Then you put on the other stretchy tube next on your other shoulder. At this point, you have you have two stretchy tubes on both shoulders forming an X in the middle of your body. Make sure the hem is on top again as to prevent the tube from twisting.

Now if you’re wondering where to put the third stretchy tube, well, it goes on your belly area. You put on as if you’re wearing a shirt; pulling it over your head and making sure it lands on your belly area.

So you have two stretchy tubes on each shoulder, forming an X on both your front and back. Then the third stretchy tube goes right on your belly area. At this point, your baby sling is all done.

Pick your baby up and sit them in the cross.

It’s important to secure baby. So spread out the tubes to support the back of your baby. Your baby gets the support from X formation of the tubes. Hence, it’s important that you spread out the stretchy tubes.

The third layer of support covers the bum bum area of the baby, securing the baby from the gap of the X formation. This final layer covers the baby’s back.

The great thing about this DIY stretchy sling is that the baby can easily gain access to mom’s milk without having to expose the breast. Of course, this particular stretchy sling is not recommended for long periods of time but it looks really fun to make it.

I really loved having a sling to carry my second son around in. I loved it so much that I learned how to make my own so that I could have a few different color options without buying a new one.

I even made a cute sling for a friend as her baby shower gift. A thick (she lived in the north), reversible sling that had soft pink roses on one side and vines on the other.

Making a sling can be really easy and inexpensive if you are decent at sewing. Even a beginner can pick up on the simple steps easily. Grab a few old sheets to practice with until you get it right.

Rixa of The True Face of Birth just shared the most beautiful and easy looking pattern to make a great pleated ring sling. She really took the time to lay out the steps for you one by one so that you won’t have to worry about what you do next.

And once you go over to check out the tutorial, be sure to hang out and read some more of her great posts. The birth junkies will definitely enjoy her posts on childbirth and a woman’s options. It is a topic I have seen with a lot of discussion lately, and I hope will soon be overturned.

So, head over to Rixa’s, enjoy the sling tutorial, and get a little educated on childbirth. It’s a great start to the week.

So you have more than enough ways and means to make your very own baby sling. Go ahead now, make your very own baby sling and enjoy having your baby next to you.